Know when to fold 'em
“Dwell not on the past. Use it to illustrate a point, then leave it behind. Nothing really matters except what you do now in this instant of time. From this moment onwards you can be an entirely different person, filled with love and understanding, ready with an outstretched hand, uplifted and positive in every thought and deed.” -Eileen Caddy I was in yoga last night, twisting and trying to find my zen breath when the instructor read a quote on letting go of the past in order to embrace your future. In case you haven't been following (welcome new-comers!!) I have just moved across the country to Connecticut and basically left everything familiar back in Colorado. I was joking with a friend that my dog and yoga are the only 2 things that have not changed in the past 2 years (sometimes it seems more funny than others). As I reflected on "letting go" and all that I left behind, I realized that though I left emotional baggage back in beautiful Colorado, I also shed a lot of junk.
We all accumulate stuff. We buy it, love it ... aaaaaaand then we don't love it anymore. We cling to that hideous afghan from our great aunt Mabel just as much as bad investments, toxic friends and noxious thoughts, all because we are afraid to let go of the familiar, to move on to more.
As humans, we of course interact with our surroundings through our senses. Ok science class, did you know:
FACT: Approximately 65 percent of us are visual learners. FACT: The brain processes visual information 60,000 faster than text. FACT: 90 percent of information that comes to the brain is visual. FACT: 40 percent of all nerve fibers connected to the brain are linked to the retina.
In light of the above breaking scientific developments, our home interior is of ultimate importance. We are drastically influenced by what we ingest visually and following this logic, can alter that experience with conscious selections of what we see around us on a day-to-day basis. Our physical environment holds key insights into who we are, what we want and where we are going. It can sing our praises, speak to our future ... and also echo emotions that we haven't yet put behind us. These negative visual reminders weigh on us daily, impede positive energy, qi, mojo, whatever you want to call it. Maybe you think you paid too much for that rug to get rid of it - but every time you look at it it reminds you of the awful fight you had with your husband when you bought it. Maybe your mother loved that sorry old chair so you feel it is disrespectful to let it go - but just a glimpse gives you flashbacks to innumerable torturous Sunday afternoons trapped by scratchy tights and "good manners".
The key here is that these pieces that were a part of your past that no longer serve you are holding you back. Now, I am not espousing that we all buy into an unnecessary cycle of consumerism. I am not saying that all you own should be hip or designer or "all the rage". Cherish that quirky tablecloth from Nana that warms your heart. When things work well for you, by all means: stick to your guns, stand by your man, dance with the one that brung 'ya. But don't let your spaces speak to who you were 8 years ago at the expense of thriving today. Don't limit yourself to the you that
you were then. I keep hearing the Kenny Loggins song in my head - know when to fold 'em and let those pieces go! If it will make you feel better to get a little of the money back that you spent on it, try Craigslist. If it was sentimenal to someone, but not to you, donate it to a charity knowing that it will go on to make a positive difference in someone else's life. Letting go of the anchors you keep dragging out of habit frees more than your space, it clears your mind. Dwell not on the past, you have to embrace who you are right now. Cull your surroundings to include only pieces that actually put a smile on your face today and nurture who you will be tomorrow. (I don't just mean furniture, people. Celebrate your great friends, true supporters and genuine loved ones.) With your focus in the right place you will be more inspired to let go and make positive moves for your future. Create spaces that speak to your bliss. Now that's some serious Namaste.
*Seriously, check out the Kenny Loggins link - I can't resist the Muppets and the lyrics are a pretty good reminder.
Love you darlings <3