Mental Space Monday: Abraham Lincoln, Brené Brown and Harry Potter help us in our search for happiness
Welcome to Mental Space Monday
Where we dive down the rabbit hole of collective consciousness, throw GPS out the window and submit to the whims of curiosity.
Last week we talked about how the "c" value (the universal constant, the speed of light) exists within each of us and is the source of bliss. We looked at the fact that each of us comes pre-wired with the entelechy to become all of the fathomless wonderful that we could ever imagine. We also discussed how trusting that innate potential is the key to getting in the driver's seat of our own happiness and taking the wheel.
This week I want to examine the nature of our "c" value. It is imperative that we inspect just what it is that leads to a healthy "c", center, core, inner light, heart,...soul, if you want to go there... What exactly is the recipe for developing a healthy "c"?
Let's start with some advice from 2 great emancipators: Mr. Abraham Lincoln,
A house divided against itself cannot stand.
I believe this government cannot endure, permanently half slave and half free.
I do not expect the Union to be dissolved -- I do not expect the house to fall -- but I do expect it will cease to be divided.
It will become all one thing or all the other.
And Mrs. Brené Brown,
"Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are."
What do these have to do with each other and how do they help us in our search to find happiness and live up to our entelechy?
I co-lead a women's group that meets monthly. Each time we have a few people who contribute short casual speeches toward a common theme with group discussions throughout. Our most recent theme was "Love" and oddly enough none of the 4 speakers talked about their partners; none of them discussed their kids or their parents. Each of these strong, passionate, successful women spoke of their journey to find love of self. Acceptance and passion for the complex, flawed, evolving person that they were and were born to be. Each of these speakers had been driven to a point in their lives where they had to make a choice between breakdown and a difficult commitment to finding their "c" and to fostering their entelechy no matter the cost. Each found that they had stifled parts of themselves because they had been so focused on the perfect, thriving person they were supposed to be that they had forgotten to embrace who they are. They had separated out pieces that they didn't like and hidden them away in dark corners or, like the Dursleys in Harry Potter, had locked away the shameful nephew in the cupboard under the stairs to prevent the company from feeling uncomfortable.
Just as Lincoln says, a house divided against itself cannot stand. When we attempt to thrive using only a portion of the tools we are given to do so, we divide ourselves and we cannot endure. Each of the speakers shared that it wasn't until they embraced all of themselves, until they stopped dividing their "c" that they were able to truly stand and as Lincoln says, become all one thing. They discovered, as did Lincoln in during the Civil War, that there is no halfway, there is no keeping the good and flushing out the bad.
Thriving and success only exist within union and wholeness.
At the risk of alienating discerning thinkers, I have to include a Harry Potter reference. Once Harry was out of his closet under the stairs; once he stopped suppressing the dark, peculiar, different parts of himself ... he found magic.
Before you resist the metaphor, I am not suggesting that you actually try to turn a teapot into a tortoise. What I am saying is that there is power within you. Power and strength and strong foundation in embracing who you really are. The weird, the imperfect, the not quite wonderful. The wholeness that comes as a result of this acceptance allows us to "stand undivided", to "live whole-heartedly" and, for all intents and purposes, to become magic.
Next week will continue on this undivided "c" value. There are too many examples of the strength of this decision to include in one post. In the meantime, take a look at which parts of you have been swept under the rug and locked in cupboards. Begin to entertain the thought that they just may be the bricks that have been missing in the foundations of who you are meant to become.
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Have a wonderful week, lovelies. Believe in your unique entelechy and actualize your wonderful.