Why your home will never be perfect (and why you shouldn't want it to be)

An Indian sage named Osho said,

“I love this world because it is imperfect. It is imperfect, and that's why it is growing; if it was perfect it would have been dead. Growth is possible only if there is imperfection. I would like you to remember again and again, I am imperfect, the whole universe is imperfect, and to love this imperfection, to rejoice in this imperfection is my whole message.”

With any interior project perfection is the big, hulking elephant in the room. No one says it; everyone thinks they want it, we all know it's really not possible. The reason your home will never be perfect is: ... wait for it ... there is no such thing. Make like Elsa (or, more accurately, Idina) and Let it Go. Seriously. Click that link and listen to it a full blast - or, even better, let any random 5-year-old sing it to you. Either way, make it your mantra. Listen to Osho and embrace the principal that your home is something that will constantly grow and change knowing that this is the only way it will improve as you improve.

5f8a335639e44e88be66e8ce861e2853My personal guru of all gurus is Brené Brown. (She doesn't know it, but she changed my life, and I'm not the only one.*) Brené writes and speaks on how embracing your imperfections is more courageous than trying to hide them. As true as this is in our minds, it is just as true in our homes. We all have lives. Those lives are not meant to be made up of selecting the ultimate one perfect pillow/ tassel/lamp, etc. nor should they be filled with maintaining a perfectly clear countertop and eradicating every speck of dust. The most wonderful part of our homes is that the good ones feel like a living, breathing companion to comfort us when we need refuge and to house (literally and figuratively) moments that become memories. It is more courageous to say, "I am not perfect and I haven't finished the dishes" than it is to pretend that you have everything together, all the time, in all areas of your life. There is a book that I think of every time this subject comes up; it's called A Perfectly Kept House is the Sign of a Misspent Life. I have admittedly never read it, but the title rings so true. Maybe you can read it for me and tell me what you think.

This is not to say that you shouldn't put a little effort toward making your space into something that is intentional and reflective of you and your passions but rather than being a trophy to put on a pedestal in the corner (and keep perfectly dusted) a great home is more like a well-behaved dog - it may not always be perfectly groomed but if you spend the time to train it well it makes you happier, makes your life easier and is always happy to see you when you walk in the door.

Tell me how this new Mental space you have created allows you to better enjoy your home, I would love to hear from you!

a great home is like a dog


*Her books are amazing, but if you only have time for a 20 minute life changer, try this and this. Wow.